so i moved down to my new town last june and i met this girl... shes awesome she the best i like her alot we've been dating for about 4 months but today i found out something interesting...apparently she cheated on her last boyfriend and had a nasty break up with him and then went and "hooked" up with alot of guys after that rebounding. i asked her before we dated how many guys shes been with and she said two...her ex and the guy she cheated with.... but today i hear that she actually ended fucking alot of guys and crap so idk what to do... it was a rela buzz kill to find this out this mornign right after i baked... any ideas?
(Rant on) Ok I'm going to try and remain as passive as possible but this subject is one I hear too often and many women lose men to this subject unfairly..
Slut vs. Stud
If a guy beds roughly 5 - 15 women while in high school and college he's a stud. He's revered by friends and family. He generally is applauded by most of society for his sexual prowess.
If a woman beds ANYONE but you, she's a slut. Shunned by society, treated like she's worse than the gum on the bottom of a shoe and not worth anyone's time.
Do we see a little bit of inequity here?
My wife, my lovely princess of a wife, has fucked, screwed, slept with, had intercourse with well over 20 men. I myself have had intercourse with roughly 30 - 35 women. When we got together she'd been with 9 guys and I'd been with 6 women. You do the math on this and realize we are quite sexual anything else you infer is what ever you dream up.
I consider my bride to be as pristine as the day I met her 13 years ago. Why? She has no kids (nor do I) and neither of us has any STD's. So physically there's not a single problem with either of us.
The ONLY problem with your girlfriend is that she lied to you. Not that she had copious amounts of rebound sex. She lied to you because that's what society has trained her to do. She believes deep down that you would find her 'unacceptable' for being a sexual person and therefore not interested in her. She has been trained by centuries of sexism that it's 'bad' for a woman to be sexual, therefor to retain her womanhood she must lie to protect her pool of available mates, to out herself as experienced sexually drastically reduces the pool from stupid men who don't get it.
So... What should you do. Ask her why she lied. (She'll likely stammer and eventually say what I just said.) Then tell her that you don't care how many men she's been with but what you care about is her future honesty with you. Do not be angry or aggressive, just honest.
Then once you're all happy enjoy the fact that you have a woman who actually knows how to fuck instead of one who has no experience and lies there like a wet noodle waiting for you to finish.
I don't know about anyone else but by the time I got to college I'd lost interest in training women on how to be fun in bed and wanted a nice classic girl who'd been around the block and knew how to make me feel good while feeling good herself. (Rant off)
Peace.
-RT76
