Opinion Needed: Is it ever okay to sleep with a guy on the 1st date?

Toker88

Active Member
Hey RIU

My friend and I have a... conflict of opinions lol and we need external input--

Is it ever ok to sleep with a guy on your first offcial date?

+ rep for good replies!


Thankx for your opinions RIU! :bigjoint:
 

OregonMeds

Well-Known Member
It depends...

I've had very serious relationships a couple times with girls who slept with me on the first date. We either struck it off perfectly and things just came together where we were almost instantly inseperable or in another case we started as friends with benefits and that grew into more.

If you're dating a mormon or jehova's witness that tactic might not work out so well and yes there are even normal guys (if you want to call them that) who wouldn't want a serious relatioship with someone that would sleep with someone on the first date as there are girls the same way.

Again it all depends on the person, more accurately both people. At least if that person and you don't match in bed you've only wasted one day rather than a long courtship.

Most of the time people know right away if they're going to end up in bed together anyway so playing some game to draw things out might not make sense.
 

zeppelin

Well-Known Member
don't think of it as right or wrong in a general sense you have to think of it as right or wrong for you
but that being said sometimes you just gotta go for it, nothing wrong with a one night stand
also you might find out he's just bad and save yourself the bad sex in the future
 

sqhschief

Active Member
It depends...

I've had very serious relationships a couple times with girls who slept with me on the first date. We either struck it off perfectly and things just came together where we were almost instantly inseperable or in another case we started as friends with benefits and that grew into more.

If you're dating a mormon or jehova's witness that tactic might not work out so well and yes there are even normal guys (if you want to call them that) who wouldn't want a serious relatioship with someone that would sleep with someone on the first date as there are girls the same way.

Again it all depends on the person, more accurately both people. At least if that person and you don't match in bed you've only wasted one day rather than a long courtship.

Most of the time people know right away if they're going to end up in bed together anyway so playing some game to draw things out might not make sense.
^^^ Perfect answer.
 

Toker88

Active Member
if you have to ask this question then maybe it should be no....

lol actually this is not my situation persay, its a friend of mine who went on a first date, and slept with this guy she really says she likes... anyways I said I thought it was a stupid thing to do, but thats just my opinion...

I'm under the impression that if you want a serious relationship with someone, sleeping w/ them on the first date is the wrong way to go about it.... but once again, thats my opinion.


Anyways thankx for your responses so far RIU :)
 

gogrow

confused
I'm a man, so maybe my opinion is a bit different from yours, but I believe it depends on the circumstances. I personally would rather not have sex on the first date, its a little generic. At the same time, sometimes the whole night goes perfect.... and then things heat up a bit; to the point where there isnt much will to say no....

depends on how it happened... many women seem to think that sex is the way to end a date, and proceed as such.... kinda makes you lose interest
 

cbtwohundread

Well-Known Member
thats comedy^^^^^^^
its ok to sleep with me on the first date.,.,.imho.,.,.,.its even ko0l to sleep with i when you first meet me.,.,.,but i dont think you should do it with other guys thats nasty.,.,.,
 

leeny

Active Member
IMO It's fine to sleep together on the first date as that would be an important aspect of our relationship throughout.
of course I take the term "slut" in a positive manner... jk
but I want us to have the same sexual interests at heart :D
 

tnrtinr

Well-Known Member
It is trashy. Wait a few dates - if not for anything other than building sexual tension. Makes it that much better when it happens.
 
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