not sure where exactly your spot is, but it sounds like you may need to do a weekend getaway or something for some real get down.. maybe go book a room in the nearest big city, take the wifey out for a night on the town.. after partying it up all night in the many clubs or bars, you just go back to the hotel room and get down on the get down..
the next morning when you wake up, you can either drive home, go get some breakfast and explore the city some in the day time if you want to spend some more time there, or just spend all day in bed with the old lady.. sounds like a good time to me..
it may cost you a couple of bucks and isn't something that you'd want to do all of the time, but it's a nice thing to do once in awhile to splurge on..
and not to be a dick or anything, but wouldn't you have looked into things like nightlife in the town that you were planning to move to before you moved there if you didn't know too much about it first if that was important to you.. just saying, and not trying to be a dick at all, lol..