Three or four days is a while, though. Besides letting them dry out, have you checked the roots closely? Sometimes root rot sets in even if you see some roots. A little compost tea is a good idea, but maybe a light feeding of something like kelp would help them recover faster. Just a thought.
Wow, that's quite a journey. Sounds like you've wrestled with some big questions, and that experience in the dark...intense. Glad you found some peace, even if it challenged your long-held beliefs.