in serious need of some dating advice

Keenly2

Keenly2

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alright, let me start off by saying that if you dont approve of the choices i make in my own life, keep it to yourself

i have a girlfriend of 3 years, i cant stand her, i make excuses to not hang out with her, and i just need to get rid of her

she is completely in love with me

I also have another girl on the side that im not really dating we just screw around, but recently she confessed her love to me on myspace

NOW, about a week ago a girl i work with and i started hanging out, and she kissed me, and asked me to be her boyfriend

so heres the deal

i REALLY , and i mean, REALLY like girl number 3, (the work girl)

i need to get rid of the other 2 girls

being a dick is NOT an option, its just not who i am

breaking both of these girls hearts is really going to hurt me as well, because i can not stand to hurt others

also, phone / internet is not an option for ending it

i have never broken up with a girl before, and now i have to do it twice, advice is needed

as long as your not going to complain about the situation i have gotten myself into, any and all advice will be taken into consideration, and greatly appreciated
 
Keenly2

Keenly2

Active Member
myspace = gay

im well aware, i hate social networking, but for the ladies, its pretty much required


are you going to try and help me or not
 
HowzerMD

HowzerMD

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Cool it for a while and make sure you are ready to throw away three years. Even though you can't stand your GF any longer, that's a lot of time to consider. On the other hand you can't be juggling these women AND be happy. It won't work, and if it does only to a point. It sounds like you have made things very complicated for your romantic life and it might be time to consider a different strategy. You might want to worry less about breaking up than making sure this doesn't have backlash. Obviously you haven't been honest with either of these girls for some time now; things could get sticky so keep that in mind. Women are insane, always have and always will be.(I love women, don't get me wrong)Also keep that in mind. There is no amount of shit they won't sift through to get to the bottom of something if they REALLY want to. Cover all your bases, and get ready for fallout. Good luck.
 
Keenly2

Keenly2

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all my bases are covered, not one girl knows anything about the others, and im not throwing away the time i spent with her

i dated her from the time i was 18 (21 next month WOOO) until now... i can not stand her, i am not attracted to her and have no desire to be with her, the passion / interest is gone

i dont feel like i can be myself around her because if i do or say anything she doesnt agree with she gets all pissy and pouty


also, this is the kind of girl who will demand my phone just so she can go through it and read all my texts and listen to my voicemails etc


NOT girlfriend materiel

also, none of them are psycho bitches, so i wont be getting my car keyed or tires slashed etc...
 
S

scotch

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Dude, this is high school drama. Tell 1 and 2 that you and feeling smother'd and you are not ready to take the next step: tell them you need some time to work things out in your head. Then #3 is all yours to bang.
 
HowzerMD

HowzerMD

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Well then all that's left is to be honest with her. Tell her the same thing you just typed. If you're serious about that than say it and you won't have to worry about whether or not you did the right thing. Of course there's the other broad thing, but that's beside the point. The main idea is just getting it over with. You say nobody's nuts in the situation so just fuckin break it off.
 
Keenly2

Keenly2

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maybe you missed the point, i dont want to just bang # 3


and i was not aware that life = high school drama
 
Keenly2

Keenly2

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HowzerMD said:
Well then all that's left is to be honest with her. Tell her the same thing you just typed. If you're serious about that than say it and you won't have to worry about whether or not you did the right thing. Of course there's the other broad thing, but that's beside the point. The main idea is just getting it over with. You say nobody's nuts in the situation so just fuckin break it off.
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thank you for not being a dick in the situation

i have some self esteem issues and i become pretty depressed if there is no girl in my life, hopefully it will be easier now that i have some one who makes me as happy as 3 does, i think what i need to do is, after i hang out with 3, and have all those ridiculous heroin like chemicals still in my body, go to 1's house and break it off, and just completely stop talking to 2
 
Louis541

Louis541

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That girl has you whipped. you don't need that shit. her feelings are being prioritized before your mental and emotional well being.

It's litterally as easy as sayin 'babe, it's over, should we have goodbye sex?'

Or wait until after the goodbye sex to tell her.

As far as the other gurl, just weed her out, since she isn't close just start seeing her less and less. Or just be the shittiest boyfriend possible until she breaks up with you.

In summary, life is too damn short to be unhappy for any reason, especially a woman.
 
Buddreams

Buddreams

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Here's what you say. " I've been thinking about us. We're not going any where. You'll always be special to me, I hope we canalways be freinds. I am leaving you personx, I want to discover who I really am." and thats a good start :D
 
SmokesLikeBob

SmokesLikeBob

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Tell all of them about each other! There's only 2 ways that can turn out, 50/50 chance ain't too bad...haha j/k
But in all seriousness, #1 will be harder to get rid of, because at some point in your life you loved her...and that shit never goes away...It may hit you hard when the time comes for you to do what you gotta' do...(believe me, I've had that happen to me)...#2...just slowly drift away from her, in a month or 2, she'll probably lose the feeling too...

SLB
 
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But really Id just tell 1 and 2 its over but you would like to still be friends or not if you dont want to,I wouldn't even explain to them why its over unless you want to (then just tell them the truth) then Id just move on to the next one.
 
dbkick

dbkick

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My advice is get rid of one before you're banging another , it will do wonders for your karma, on the other hand being a nasty sleazy cheating skank won't.
 
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