OK Girls (and guys) what can you tell me about this situation.

[puffdatchronic]

I really don't know where I stand with a girl. Bit of background: I started volunteering somewhere a few months ago and I was in a training group of me and about 12 other, mostly hot women. There have been emails exchanged with a few of these girls who are decent looking, definitely worth a bit of fun sometime, but idk if I would cheat on my gf with them. I mean my relationship with my gf is *meh* some good points, sex life has picked up big time which is great, but there's just something missing, I lust after other girls a lot too..

anyway, there is this one girl from my training group, who has also started on my fully trained volunteer shift, she is so unbelievably hot, 10/10 , beautiful , like probably out of my league. She HAS a bf, talks about him enough so I don't forget the fact, has a kid. I sent her a friend request on the volunteer network/ website which she didn't accept. OK so far so bad, BUT, she always talks to me like we are friends, she will be glancing over at me all the time on shift, during one training thing I couldn't quite see and she called me over to sit beside her.. she made and brought me in a cup of coffee last night while she was on her break, she always seems to want to get on a smoke break with me and last night she used an excuse to exchange numbers. So ALL good there. Mixed messages or what? Just being friendly? Maybe keeping me as a backup plan? Would maybe see me behind her bfs back? Just toying with me? (And it's not like I ever come across like i like her-like her, like some puppy, I always play it real cool and alpha around her).

I should probably just leave it and maybe someday something will happen, even though that is the worst mindset you can have if you want to make a move with a girl.. windows close, friendship zone beckons. But, If I was ever gonna cheat this would be it, she is too hot to turn down seriously.

What do you guys think about it.. what would you do?

 

[Hookabelly]

Can of worms. Leave it alone. If you're "meh" w/ you gf, either work it out (for the sake of your kid) tell her your feelings, or end it, but don't get mixed up w/ another, especially a mother…. WITH a b/f

just asking for hassle.

*The reason she's flirting with you? It may be:

-She's interested in fooling around, in which case what if you did fall for her but she didn't?
-Most likely if she's a 10, then she's used to toying with men and getting attention tread light on this one.

Watch and wait for awhile….she'll flirt w/ other guys too. If you don't believe me, start talking to the other women you work with and watch her reaction. She's used to being the prettiest in the room and she'll fight harder for your attention.

 

[puffdatchronic]

Can of worms. Leave it alone. If you're "meh" w/ you gf, either work it out (for the sake of your kid) tell her your feelings, or end it, but don't get mixed up w/ another, especially a mother…. WITH a b/f

just asking for hassle.

*The reason she's flirting with you? It may be:

-She's interested in fooling around, in which case what if you did fall for her but she didn't?
-Most likely if she's a 10, then she's used to toying with men and getting attention tread light on this one.

Watch and wait for awhile….she'll flirt w/ other guys too. If you don't believe me, start talking to the other women you work with and watch her reaction. She's used to being the prettiest in the room and she'll fight harder for your attention.

Yeah good point, it could be that she naturally flirts as she *can*. But.. idk, the thing is we share a lot of common ground.. both interested in the same volunteering, both with kids , both back in adult education w/kid. When we talk there has never been ANY awkward, nothing to say type moments..

I'm not really sure if I care if I fall for her, fooling around would be great! But at the same time, I would need to see and get a measure of her bf to see how i compare .. seems to me like she probably has a pretty epic bf already based on her attractiveness.

Yeah, I'll maybe leave it alone.. maybe start gradually increasing the flirtation.. see what happens..

probably just a natural flirt though.. but why come up with a plan to exchange numbers? it was so premeditated!

The thing w/ my gf though, there are several issues in the relationship which need to change long term or I will eventually want out.. and which she shows no interest in changing so far, so idk if I would feel that bad cheating.

 

[Hookabelly]

Yeah good point, it could be that she naturally flirts as she *can*. But.. idk, the thing is we share a lot of common ground.. both interested in the same volunteering, both with kids , both back in adult education w/kid. When we talk there has never been ANY awkward, nothing to say type moments..

I'm not really sure if I care if I fall for her, fooling around would be great! But at the same time, I would need to see and get a measure of her bf to see how i compare .. seems to me like she probably has a pretty epic bf already based on her attractiveness.

Yeah, I'll maybe leave it alone.. maybe start gradually increasing the flirtation.. see what happens..

probably just a natural flirt though.. but why come up with a plan to exchange numbers? it was so premeditated!

The thing w/ my gf though, there are several issues in the relationship which need to change long term or I will eventually want out.. and which she shows no interest in changing so far, so idk if I would feel that bad cheating.

That's infatuation. Right now she'd fart and you'd love the song….There was probably a time when you felt this way w/ your gf too.. think back

You'd be surprised. Seeing the b/f will explain a lot: if he's a little weasel, then you know she has massive insecurity issues, if he's an Adonis, then def. leave them alone and she's toying w/ you

Dude, cheating is so low rent, be a man and handle the existing relationship first either you both fix or end it clean, but don't muddy the waters and your mind by managing two women at once, Never a good idea.


My instincts tell me that she's a beautiful girl who is used to men falling all over her and the coffee, phone # etc. is just seeing how far she can push….

 

[sunni]

i agree with hooka.
if youre not happy with your current gf, you should work it out with her or seperate.

dont even go to the other side of the fence believe it it wont look good on you, or help you or be good for you
because chances are even if this girl does have sex with you she wont ever leave her bf for you , proven effing fact
she probably is just used to the attention and isnt getting any from her current bf because shes in the same situation as you are, the feeling of neglect and arguing ect.ect.

 

[giggles26]

Dude she just wants to puff on that chronic....

 

[puffdatchronic]

That's infatuation. Right now she'd fart and you'd love the song….There was probably a time when you felt this way w/ your gf too.. think back

You'd be surprised. Seeing the b/f will explain a lot: if he's a little weasel, then you know she has massive insecurity issues, if he's an Adonis, then def. leave them alone and she's toying w/ you

Dude, cheating is so low rent, be a man and handle the existing relationship first either you both fix or end it clean, but don't muddy the waters and your mind by managing two women at once, Never a good idea.


My instincts tell me that she's a beautiful girl who is used to men falling all over her and the coffee, phone # etc. is just seeing how far she can push….

Ok yeah I would say I have a crush on her.. it's hard not to. But generally in life If a girl doesn't like you the last thing she is gonna want is you having her number? That is the real thing that has ramed up my feelings about it , before I was like, " I wonder does she like me? Why do I always look over to see her looking back?" and now she says " OH.. you have my ~ don't you? " ( "no") " well take it here and text me a reminder for x , send me yours too and I'll save it" ( "oakily doakily") . The reason was flimsy.. she just wanted us to have each others numbers.

I know cheating is bad, and I haven't done it, despite my reservations about my long term future with my current gf. I have thought about it though, and to be honest if this girl said, you coming over to mine for a drink bf is out of town, i'd be down there . fast.

Who knows.. I'll likely not make any moves though. Just wonderng what your thoughts of her mixed signals were, which you have given me a good insight on hooka, thanks..

 

[puffdatchronic]

do you guys not think that what a person doesn't know cannot hurt them.. a little secret fun would be awesome with this girl as i would be batting way above my average.

 

[sunni]

do you guys not think that what a person doesn't know cannot hurt them.. a little secret fun would be awesome with this girl as i would be batting way above my average.

girls will always find out....ALWAYS either she will end up telilng her bf and causing issues with you or your girlfriend will know
regardless of morals aside, youcould get her pregnant or get an sti, and infect your girlfriend just dont do it.

 

[puffdatchronic]

girls will always find out....ALWAYS either she will end up telilng her bf and causing issues with you or your girlfriend will know
regardless of morals aside, youcould get her pregnant or get an sti, and infect your girlfriend just dont do it.

lol buzzkill. i take your point though

 

[sunni]

lol buzzkill. i take your point though

trust me....ive been in this situation im not proud of it...
and i did what your thinking did and it was a mess....the guilt alone is terrible...i ended up hurting someone really badly, and i have to live with that the rest of my life, its a terrible thing ....just look at the menu but dont order dude.
throughout life its OKAY, to be attracted to other people while dating someone, goas far as mindless flirting if you must, but never cheat....the outcomes just are never worth the hour of fun or whatever it is.

 

[-Dodge-]

I really don't know where I stand with a girl. Bit of background: I started volunteering somewhere a few months ago and I was in a training group of me and about 12 other, mostly hot women. There have been emails exchanged with a few of these girls who are decent looking, definitely worth a bit of fun sometime, but idk if I would cheat on my gf with them. I mean my relationship with my gf is *meh* some good points, sex life has picked up big time which is great, but there's just something missing, I lust after other girls a lot too..

anyway, there is this one girl from my training group, who has also started on my fully trained volunteer shift, she is so unbelievably hot, 10/10 , beautiful , like probably out of my league. She HAS a bf, talks about him enough so I don't forget the fact, has a kid. I sent her a friend request on the volunteer network/ website which she didn't accept. OK so far so bad, BUT, she always talks to me like we are friends, she will be glancing over at me all the time on shift, during one training thing I couldn't quite see and she called me over to sit beside her.. she made and brought me in a cup of coffee last night while she was on her break, she always seems to want to get on a smoke break with me and last night she used an excuse to exchange numbers. So ALL good there. Mixed messages or what? Just being friendly? Maybe keeping me as a backup plan? Would maybe see me behind her bfs back? Just toying with me? (And it's not like I ever come across like i like her-like her, like some puppy, I always play it real cool and alpha around her).

I should probably just leave it and maybe someday something will happen, even though that is the worst mindset you can have if you want to make a move with a girl.. windows close, friendship zone beckons. But, If I was ever gonna cheat this would be it, she is too hot to turn down seriously.

What do you guys think about it.. what would you do?

Need some pics to properly diagnose this.

 

[puffdatchronic]

trust me....ive been in this situation im not proud of it...
and i did what your thinking did and it was a mess....the guilt alone is terrible...i ended up hurting someone really badly, and i have to live with that the rest of my life, its a terrible thing ....just look at the menu but dont order dude.
throughout life its OKAY, to be attracted to other people while dating someone, goas far as mindless flirting if you must, but never cheat....the outcomes just are never worth the hour of fun or whatever it is.

hmm .. but you did sample those forbidden fruits.. it's maybe easier for you to say it/do it now you have done the taboo...

and maybe men are biologically more *ok* with spreading the seed so to speak...

don't worry, you guys are probably right about her messing with me anyway... we'll see.

 

[puffdatchronic]

Need some pics to properly diagnose this.

haha I wish I could get a few dude.. she doesnt have facebook.. and neither do i.. another commonality..trust me she is smoking hot though.. i don't bandy that word around lightly.

 

[cat of curiosity]

if you want to know what she's thinking, rehearse this line, and say it straight faced, no bullshit, no flirt...

'nice shoes. wanna fuck?'

if she says anything other than no, she's a cheat, will more than likely do you if opportunity arises, and not give a single dingleberry about you one way or another. my ex was one of those types, and honestly believed that fucking around wasn't a big deal, cuz it was just sex, not love. if this girl will cheat on her bf, she'd cheat on you too (if you ever got to feeling serious).

 

[racerboy71]

i used to know this girl who only flirted with guys she knew had a gf.. i almost feel for it, but, well, tbh, my gf at the time saw right threw it and told me what she was doing, and she was spot on.. she moved from me to this other guy i knew, who eventually dumped his gf for this girl, and after he did, she didn't want anything to do with him.. it was all just a game to her i guess to see how many guys she could get to dump their gf's for her, an ego boost i guess.. and same deal, this girl was smoking hot, perfect body and all, but w/e, she was nutso..
i also agree, so not worth it to cheat.. cheating, especially when the other person is cheating too, will never go any where.. just remember, if she's willing to cheat on her bf now, guess what? more then likely the same will be in your future not too far down the line..

 

[st0wandgrow]

I agree with the ladies. The odds on this being some harmless fling and you just getting your pecker wet, with no collateral damage is slim to none. The possible bad things that could come of this are endless. She could have herpes (or worse). You could knock her up. Her current BF could knock you out (or worse). She could end up being a shit load of drama that you never saw coming. You could likely make yourself look like an ass.

Handle your business with your current girl, and then if you still feel the need to pursue this other one go for it AFTER you get to know her a bit better. No matter how much "meh" you feel towards your girlfriend, she probably doesn't deserve to be made to look like a fool if this shit goes sideways. If I were you, I'd get a good mental image of this new gal and go beat off. It's much easier and quicker. Besides, most women that are drop dead gorgeous don't have much else in life to offer. They get by on looks alone.

 

[racerboy71]

funny, me and cat typed the same shit at the same time..

 

[puffdatchronic]

Ok dudes. Yeah, my current gf is a bit more than meh I suppose, theres just some fundamental issues that make me think she isn't gonna be the one. But its decent. And cummon guys, if you had some babe giving you their number, you would be in the same mindset as me .. i would bet on it.. and I think I could handle the shiznit without it ever being a drama.. she wouldnt be getting my address or anything.. only bad thing is i could be at hers and her bf comes home.. that would be sorta bad. lol, stupid idea

 

[Hookabelly]

do you guys not think that what a person doesn't know cannot hurt them.. a little secret fun would be awesome with this girl as i would be batting way above my average.

False. YOu will know that you cheated on your g/f and the mother of your child…..if your child is a daughter, would YOU want her treated that way? Like I said earlier, be a man and do it the right way.


*** I know, easier said than done, but is an orgasm worth knocking down your self respect a peg or two? Especially just an orgasm that's just to prove you could "get" a 10? come on Puff, stay strong.