Love You?

GanJulia

GanJulia

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HELLO RIU,

I havent been on much because recently school and my social life has taken over. I've been seeing this man recently for several months now and i know his friends, he knows mine, and we enjoy time together alone and with friends getting fucked up. Things have been going really well, and I'm really starting to get strong feelings for him. I've been trying to grab my balls and talk to him about us because we havent made it verbally clear that were boyfriend and girlfriend yet, even though everyone says we are. TODAY I WAS REALLY FUCKING HIGH AND DID THIS

Doug - Ill call you later after class and you can come over
Julia - Okay sounds good, love you

JULIA IMMEDIATELY FREAKS OUT

I just apologized and said im sorry and was like i dont know why i said that blah blah, he laughed and said it was okay. I was so emberassed he kept hugging me and im like you should gooooo :lol: he then said no really its okay, ill see you later, bye etc.

I havenet heard from him since then but its not unusual. It would be unusual if he didnt call me after class today. Should I text him now and be like im sorry or say something? Should i wait for him to contact me and just let it go?

It is way too soon for us to be saying that, and im obviously just an emotional wreck over him right now and I dont know why I said it. I'm really emberassed. Advice please :hug:
 
BendBrewer

BendBrewer

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Let it go. I don't think it is as big of a deal to him that you said it. But hey, it's out there and I think you'll get some answers soon. Sounds like he might like you too and just about everyone likes to hear those words.

Hope that he calls and that it all works out. If he doesn't, call him tomorrow.

Best of luck!
 
puffenuff

puffenuff

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Wait for him to call after class, if he does as usual don't sweat it...maybe he thought you meant love like a friend? Maybe he said it was ok because he likes you back? Even if he doesn't call after class, not the end of the world, give him a day or two without hearing from him to text or call. Just my advice, hope it helps some!
 
Sk306

Sk306

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Let him text you haha trust me, you don't wanna sound too worried/desperate by texting/calling him multiple times, no offence.
 
Carne Seca

Carne Seca

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GanJulia said:
HELLO RIU,

I havent been on much because recently school and my social life has taken over. I've been seeing this man recently for several months now and i know his friends, he knows mine, and we enjoy time together alone and with friends getting fucked up. Things have been going really well, and I'm really starting to get strong feelings for him. I've been trying to grab my balls and talk to him about us because we havent made it verbally clear that were boyfriend and girlfriend yet, even though everyone says we are. TODAY I WAS REALLY FUCKING HIGH AND DID THIS

Doug - Ill call you later after class and you can come over
Julia - Okay sounds good, love you

JULIA IMMEDIATELY FREAKS OUT

I just apologized and said im sorry and was like i dont know why i said that blah blah, he laughed and said it was okay. I was so emberassed he kept hugging me and im like you should gooooo :lol: he then said no really its okay, ill see you later, bye etc.

I havenet heard from him since then but its not unusual. It would be unusual if he didnt call me after class today. Should I text him now and be like im sorry or say something? Should i wait for him to contact me and just let it go?

It is way too soon for us to be saying that, and im obviously just an emotional wreck over him right now and I dont know why I said it. I'm really emberassed. Advice please :hug:
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Play it casual, girl. Let him make the next move. There's an old saying, "He chased her alright. He chased her until she caught him." Just let it go. You put a bug in his ear and hopefully you're going to like the results. ;)
 
thedoc08

thedoc08

New Member
He's been friendzoned for two months and you're surprised he's not calling you after you redact your statement and reaffirm the friendzone nature of your relationship? I might give a bitch 2 days if she's lucky, kid sounds desperate.
 
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smokey green

Active Member
Let it go...making to big of deal could make things worse... I dont think its a big deal at all....Im willing to bet he has strong feelings for you also, Id also bet he comes out about his feelings for you very soon.... Just have a feeling... best of luck to you Julia....
 
HighLowGrow

HighLowGrow

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Maybe it is something that automatically comes out of your mouth without thinking. Did you have a long term relationship where you guys said I love you a lot? I've been married 14 years and we say it all the time in passing or when one of is leaving to pick the kids up or going to the grocery store.

I wouldn't worry about it at all. Do you love each other? He kept hugging you right? Maybe time to talk.

If you do LOVE him why would you apologize to him. Did you do something wrong?

-HLG
 
racerboy71

racerboy71

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yah, i surely wouldn't go around apologizing for saying that i loved someone, that is just kinda silly honestly, and i also wouldn't go texting or calling him till he does so first.. don't want to freak the dude out for sure.. just give it some time and him time and see how things pan out from there... from my experience, it's usually the girl who says it first, but once it's out there, it's usually returned by the dude if he so feels the same way about the girl.. not to freak you out over it though, just give it some time and space and see how he reacts to it first before freaking out anymore than i'm sure you already are, lol.. take a chill pill and smoke a bowl or two..
 
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LostReefSponger

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i agree, let him come to you, us guys like the chase, it's the whole, "I came (hehe), I saw, I conquered" thing, eventually he'll be trapped haha.
 
Jeffdt1966

Jeffdt1966

Active Member
I'm not much of a game player myself... If you really like him - tell him so . If he's into you too then it will happen , if not he will slowly push away . Just be yourself and honest with him - you can never go wrong when your upright and honest .......
 
medicalmaryjane

medicalmaryjane

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love you and i love you are different. love ya is different too. i say love ya to a lot of my girlfriends when we hang up the phone. love you i say to family and close friends but i don't say i love you very often.
 
Cali.Grown>408

Cali.Grown>408

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LostReefSponger said:
i agree, let him come to you, us guys like the chase, it's the whole, "I came (hehe), I saw, I conquered" thing, eventually he'll be trapped haha.
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shit that depends on the female..i like to chase but only if she's worth the chase..anyways i'd say let it go, i wouldn't bring it up cause that would seem like your trying to get him to love u or say i love u back and he might feel awkward but if you guys are hella cool u could just be honest and say u love him your not in love with him..nothings wrong with loving somebody
 
Pipe Dream

Pipe Dream

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Instead of trying to grab your balls, just grab his. :lol: But seriously I wouldn't worry about it, he is probably feeling like the man right now and if he isn't interested in you then he's probably gay. There's nothing better than a smoking hot female who is cool enough to be considered a friend, unless you have feelings for her and have no shot in hell at an actual romantic relationship.
 
GanJulia

GanJulia

Active Member
Ahh I love you all so much <3 I was flippin out earlier but I medicated and have come to reality. I actually was in a long relationship where we said I love you all the time, so I know thats one of the reasons why I blurted it out. I decided it was best I didn't contact him. I mean, he chased me to begin with. If im interested and he is too, he has to come to me. Im not gonna chase a guy, its just now how I am. He texts and calls me all the time, its rarely me initiating conversation. Update though,

He texted me about half an hour ago. Heyy sexy, whats up? :D I feel like he's just gonna let it go. I'm seeing him tonight though, maybe he'll say something about it. I feel like I should just let it go and have it come out at the right time :lol: my friends who know him think its no biggie, and that he might feel the same way. I feel like my reaction after saying it stopped him from saying it (if he wanted to) I immediately just apologized and said I didn't mean to say it. I obviously do mean it, but I was so embarrassed how it came out.

anyways, thanks for all your advice again :) Even you, doc, even you. :hug:
 
BendBrewer

BendBrewer

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Now you have to explain why you said you didn't mean it when you might have. Should be an interesting conversation. A bottle of wine and they normally go very, very well.

Enjoy your night!
 
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